like man come on you dont get to call yourself an ally because you “support [us] but don’t understand the lifestyle.”

said individual called me the f slur when i made fun of his back the blue hat

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      Weird how they can drop support at you whenever you give them shit. But when I mention I’m not a CHUD because CHUDs are rude, I’m told I’m oversensitive.

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    The worst “allies” for pretty much any disadvantaged group are the smug condescending assholes that decree what the disadvantaged group should or even must to do continue winning the “ally’s” favor. Whether it’s about “respectability” or @Civility@hexbear.net or some other variety of concern trolling, that shit’s fucked and can wreck movements.

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    I don’t understand how being an “ally” works. I just try to be a good person to everyone and not be a dickhead. As cool as it would be, I’m not a leslie-feinberg, I’m just a guy, and I try to help when I can.

  • I heard a rap lyric once that went, “Maybe all your black friends can’t help that you’re a racist.”

    That’s how I feel about a lot of “allies.”

    You’re not completely horrible to the queer people in your life. Super. That doesn’t mean we’re automatically cool or that I owe you anything

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    said individual called me the f slur when i made fun of his back the blue hat

    please tell me this story ends in a jumping

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    Being an ally requires activism, which means if you don’t understand you better fucking try.

    These assholes are the same ones that couldn’t just not play the TERF School video game. Could not walk over a bar set on the ground.

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      These assholes are the same ones that couldn’t just not play the TERF School video game. Could not walk over a bar set on the ground.

      All that mattered was the treat and all excuses made were after they decided the treat was more important than whatever they claimed to support.

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        I even see other LGBT people shrug their shoulders about buying from Chick-Fil-A.

        “But they’re so good tho.”

        Or you can just not consoom the slop. I know I’m probably unknowingly guilty of it too, but holy shit people, liberals included, are always so quick to rush to defend their overrated slop that got overrated for having overrated political views.

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          I even see other LGBT people shrug their shoulders about buying from Chick-Fil-A.

          “But they’re so good tho.”

          Or you can just not consoom the slop. I know I’m probably unknowingly guilty of it too, but holy shit people, liberals included, are always so quick to rush to defend their overrated slop that got overrated for having overrated political views.

          I feel that way about some blazingly chuddy propaganda out there, where both the message is clear and the people making it are known to have those chud ideologies.

          “But it’s fiction. In the fiction the chud thing makes sense because that’s how the chuds wrote it. According to the fictional Historical Documents, goblins must be genocided and they’re not meaningfully intelligent or capable of feelings also the gratuitous sexual violence is totally just their instinctual reproduction method and totally isn’t meant to get the audience off while also making them feel justified in slaughtering the goblins. My entertainment has no meaningful effect on me which is why I am going out of my way to make excuses for the propaganda in it.” morshupls

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    There’s a “self defense for trans women” book that asserts that bystanders are actually more likely to side against trans women being assaulted if they think of themselves as allies. Which honestly feels pretty right, and I wouldn’t be shocked if it extended to other groups