• Judge_Jury [comrade/them, he/him]@hexbear.net
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    9 months ago

    Then I’ll need a better phrase to describe the psychological tension between two of a person’s beliefs or experiences that each imply a mutually exclusive set of facts to the other, because that does not roll off the tongue

    An example I see regularly is in parents who have Dobsonoid views on parenting. They believe that all disobedience must be painfully corrected to make what they see as a good person, and then they watch it just not work that way. Their resolution of the tension between their belief and their experience is usually a rationalization that an outside influence, particularly schooling, must have corrupted their child

    • UmbraVivi [he/him, she/her]@hexbear.net
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      9 months ago

      I know it’s a real phenomenon, the term has just been abused into meaninglessness. Kinda like how “psyop” has just become the new word for “conspiracy” or how the internet villain of the week apparently is always a “textbook narcissist” now.

      • Judge_Jury [comrade/them, he/him]@hexbear.net
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        9 months ago

        I agree, and it’s frustrating. I’m open to running on a terminology treadmill, and I’ve never understood why some people hate that idea so much, but it seems like new or presently-unused concise terms don’t surface quickly enough to keep up with how quickly they get debased

        • Dolores [love/loves]@hexbear.net
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          i’m with you, it’s completely futile to make a stand on some word until you’ve got an alternative to shill. i resent the idea someone’s going to make the most uncharitable interpretation of a wordchoice when if you skirted around it, they wouldn’t even get what you’re talking about