• Honestly I do this one so often myself ohnoes

        I have a tendency of seeing my conversations like a dialogue tree where I see all the ways what I’m saying could be confusing or upsetting so I’m constantly like softening/qualifying what I’m saying. It’s an attempt to ensure the exact meaning I’m trying to convey gets communicated without causing a distraction though upsetting people, but I’m not sure it works. I’ve been trying to notice these tics more to avoid the extra word count but obviously it’s still a struggle lol

      • silent_water [she/her]@hexbear.net
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        1 year ago

        I’m trying to wrap my brain around this and struggling. I use it as a garnish to make whatever I’m about to say more empathetic, especially if it’s going to sound harsh without a little window dressing. I don’t understand how you can possibly sprinkle it into virtually every sentence. but I’m also someone who rewrites entire comments if I’ve backed myself into a corner and have to reuse a word so I probably just have very different kinds of neuroses.

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          1 year ago

          I am certain I have ways of talking (and writing) that have patterns of their own and repetitive phrasing, but my personal subjective experience is that people saying “honestly” out loud as a near-constant sentence opener makes people seem less honest and it annoys me.