Not really - very rarely I do experience aesthetic attraction, but fleeting. And aesthetic attraction is just that, aesthetic, like looking at a great painting. “oh neat… anywho”
That’s partly allonormativity, but it was confusing to me at first, too! I experience no sexual or romantic attraction to people. Never wanted to kiss someone, never thought of wanting to ask someone out on a date. Always seen attractiveness on an ‘objective’ scale - I know what is conventionally attractive, and so I can deduce it logically, but I don’t feel anything for it. At the same time I enjoy the fantasy of “a cute guy” acting flustered, being all embarassed , but when I say ‘fantasy’ I don’t think of an actual person, it’s always this thought form of ‘twink with fluffy brown hair’ but he has no face. I like BL manga, too, where these cute scenarios often feature.
Until I came across microlabels and spoke with other aroace people, as well as understood attraction and its place in society, I had trouble placing this disconnect of not feeling attraction yet liking gay romance stories.
don’t you like looking at cute boys?
Not really - very rarely I do experience aesthetic attraction, but fleeting. And aesthetic attraction is just that, aesthetic, like looking at a great painting. “oh neat… anywho”
Okay! Thanks for clarifying. I got a different idea from your posts but that’s whatever.
That’s partly allonormativity, but it was confusing to me at first, too! I experience no sexual or romantic attraction to people. Never wanted to kiss someone, never thought of wanting to ask someone out on a date. Always seen attractiveness on an ‘objective’ scale - I know what is conventionally attractive, and so I can deduce it logically, but I don’t feel anything for it. At the same time I enjoy the fantasy of “a cute guy” acting flustered, being all embarassed
, but when I say ‘fantasy’ I don’t think of an actual person, it’s always this thought form of ‘twink with fluffy brown hair’ but he has no face. I like BL manga, too, where these cute scenarios often feature.
Until I came across microlabels and spoke with other aroace people, as well as understood attraction and its place in society, I had trouble placing this disconnect of not feeling attraction yet liking gay romance stories.
Apologies for my allonormativity. What do you think of Adam Brody in The Kid Detective?
Don’t think anything of him,but I can tell he would be considered attractive by a lot of people