Here is my 101. All relationships are based on time spent together. You need a lot of hours spent together before the relationship really takes shape.

If you want to make friends you need to spend time with people you like and who like you back. When hanging out ask them questions. Once they answer, ask follow up questions to show you are listening.

A clue you found someone who likes you back is if they ask questions about you. When you find someone like this be vulnerable, but open up gradually. Don’t share your darkest secret on day one. It’s overwhelming.

Make sure to also thank people for spending time with you. As an example, “it was really nice seeing you and talking to you. The time we spend together means a lot to me. I’m looking forward to the next time we hang out!”

Also be mindful of the energy you bring to the conversation. If you are all doom and gloom all the time it’s going to bum people out. Make sure you balance the conversation with positive or interesting topics.

If you have no idea what to do with someone ask them if they would like to go for a walk. In the park, around the block - whatever. Walking and talking is a great easy activity.