My father just died in his sleep. He had passed by the time the paramedics arrived.

They still did their best, which I am very grateful for, but they even an entire trash bag full of used instruments that were stuffed under the bed for some reason

I’m glad that I found it sooner over later but it’s mildly infuriating that they just discarded their medical waste under his bed.

(NSFW some blood)

I’ve been taking care of him for over 5 years and it’s made things a lot harder for me, seeing all of that all over.

    • popemichael@lemmy.sdf.orgOPEnglish
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      11 months ago

      I spent nearly the last 5 years of my life dedicated to taking care of my elderly father and my grandmother.

      I don’t have anyone else to vent to, and my father was the last of my family.

      So excuse me when I used a public forum to try to take my mind off of my world collapsing.

      • WhoRoger@lemmy.worldEnglish
        5·
        11 months ago

        I have no stake in this thing, but I can say condolences and you’re doing good. I can imagine needing to get your mind off things. When I was dealing with a death, I didn’t want to be left alone in the same flat for 5 minutes.

        I’ve dealt with paramedics a bunch of times and they always leave a mess behind. I can understand that since they have more urgent things to do (I only wonder about the biohazard rating of such trash), but combined with this situation, it can certainly leave a shitty feeling.

        • popemichael@lemmy.sdf.orgOPEnglish
          6·
          11 months ago

          Thank you for your kind words.

          Yeah, it’s like the last thing I needed in my life at that moment was to grab some bloody life-saving instruments.

          To be safe, early today I made sure to call the local non-emergency line and let them know what they left behind.

          Not to be a karen, but to double-check Washington state laws on trashing that sort of stuff.

    • Tangent5280@lemmy.worldEnglish
      185·
      11 months ago

      Lmao I just checked and you’re right. Feels surreal, like that video of that girl whose mum comes in while she’s singing apple bottom jeans, yells at her for sleeping with a teacher, and leaves, just for the girl to continue singing through her tears.

      • popemichael@lemmy.sdf.orgOPEnglish
        15·
        11 months ago

        Yeah, I’m having a bad day after and I needed to take my mind off of things for a while.

        We all grieve in our own ways.

        • uhauljoe@lemmy.worldEnglish
          7·
          11 months ago

          They meant the asshole commenter was having a mental breakdown. I’m sorry they said that, it’s ridiculous.

          You’re allowed to grieve or distract yourself in any way you want. (I would discourage anything self destructive obviously)

          There’s absolutely nothing wrong with going online. I’m incredibly sorry for your loss, and I am sending many good thoughts your way. ♡

    • WhoRoger@lemmy.worldEnglish
      123·
      11 months ago

      Geesus fuck people… What else you want to mandate? How long after family death are you allowed to go online? A day? A week? How long until you’re allowed to watch a movie? I’d bet you’re one of those people who accuses everyone of being nazis. Next time use your hands to wank rather than be a wanker.