I’m LadyAutumn and I’m the moderator of this community. I hope everyone has enjoyed their time on Lemmy thus far. This space is very much still developing, but its nice feeling like a transfem community is developing here.
I myself migrated to lemmy from reddit just last week, and created this community initially to mimic the subreddit r/mtf. I used that subreddit a lot, and loved having a place to talk with other people who understand what I’m going through. I knew if I’m going to use this platform long term, that on lemmy I would want a community for transfeminine people.
This space isn’t on reddit though, and isn’t controlled by or related to the moderation team of r/mtf. So things here won’t be exactly the same. I want this to be a community for news, for advice, for trans joy, for discussions and questions, and whatever else we want to have here. I want this space to be community controlled and for everyone to have an influence on what this community is and how it is moderated. That will mean polls and community posts and whenever they come up I’d encourage everyone to participate in them. This is a space for us, and we all should have a say.
Also thank you @ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone for hosting the lemmy.blahaj.zone instance that is hosting this community. She’s doing this without any profit motive and has been working hard to keep up with the huge influx of users around here lately. She’s awesome and has already been an active part of this community.
I figured I’d make a post sharing my perspective on this community and what I think it should be. If you have any thoughts or suggestions please feel free to share them. :)
I’m here as a father of a soon-to-be teenage trans girl. Even though no one in our family every questioned the reality of this journey, I feel the need to educate myself and learn from the stories that people kindly share in places like this.
I can also add that if anyone needs a kind word from a dad, I’m here for you.
My dad fell out of my life a couple decades ago and hasn’t made much effort to be a part of it since.
I think it’s great that you are spending time to learn about your daughter’s… Queer forrunners? Whatever we are to her.
Truly, I hope she doesn’t really need us. Supportive parents gives her the best chance for that, I think. I hope that by the time she is leaving school and building her own life and identity, being trans is just a tiny part of her, and barely even noticable, because the fear and the barriers that we face today have fallen away.
I hope she learns about trans day of remembrance from a history book, because we don’t need to hold it anymore.
I doubt it, but I so desperately hope that’s the world she grows up to explore.
Dads are tricky, especially those from an (even) older generations. My own dad is a reactionary xenophobic turd that moved to another country half way across the world because it was cheaper and sunnier and then complains about healthcare being expensive there and how immigrant are ruining things back in his home country. No sense of irony there, him being an immigrant and all. This apple fell very far away from that terrible tree after all.
As a family with a trans daughter we have been unbelievably lucky, living in a very progressive and open country in northern Europe. But the coming changes going into those tough teen years will be more of a challenge, I fear. So far, everything do with gender have been such a minute detail in her life, and I would love for that to continue. I guess it’s the rest of society that keeps insisting on gender being a big deal, but the more I learn the less I focus on that part of myself as well. It’s an interesting journey for those around her as well, we get to learn so much about each other and our selves as well.
I try to have hope about the future of sexuality, gender and equality. There are a lot of dinosaurs out there panicking over the world changing around them, but hopefully this is just a bump in the road. I am personally so frustrated with the hostility against other humans for these tiny things like their skin colour, identity, opinions or what ever. We have to move past this, the very idea that others are different have been key in so many horrible parts of our history!