• AmarkuntheGatherer
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    5 months ago

    I love the notion of womanly gays and manly lesbians. It’s so widespread that I can’t really blame this person.

    After all, if there’s one thing lesbians don’t care for, it’s women!

    • GalaxyBrain [they/them]@hexbear.net
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      5 months ago

      That reminds me of my dad being as homophobic (auto correct really wanted hemophilia out of that word) as he felt was progressive in the late 90s and felt it was odd that gay dudes might act femine and same but masculine for women but that came up way less because why would you behave like other gender if you wanna attract dame gender. Which I really wish I had the current terminology and knowledge to really really make fun of him for that one at the time, especially if it was coming from me at age 10 or so. Apparently dude wasn’t a homophobe but strictly anti twink and didn’t understand gay dudes who weren’t Tom of Finland illustrations, which is pretty funny. Anyway, he’s over it and pretty fucking chill about stuff despite having genuine old dude not understandings, he also knows he doesn’t have to understand a person to treat them half decent. I forget why, I think it was shit talking my dumbass cousin thst I brought up her Harry Potter adulthood and mentioned JK Rowling being a transphobe and both of my folks view was not understanding why anyone would be bothered by someone else transitioning cause it doesn’t affect you in a y meaningful way and it’s weird to boil someone down to a gender, whether cis or not. Which was weird to hear from my mid sixty year old parents who generally aren’t that eloquent.