It’s been wonderful to find a home here! Hoping for many more cake days for all of us here in this friendly little corner of our beloved blue marble!

This seems pretty sound advice - https://youtube.com/shorts/JhQI06_V6NQ Source: Single/dating for ten years, now married for ten years.

This may be a good place to start. Most states (that I’m aware of) have workforce development programs with both online tools and physical offices with available assistance. For most state governments it is beneficial to retain high skilled and high paid workers as part of their tax base, and provide employment opportunities to low skilled and low experience workers to increase their contribution to the community.

You should be able to find automated notification tools on their web offerings (or even an available api), and their physical locations can be excellent resources for developing soft connections with the proffesional community in your field.

Best of luck in your search!

We have the momentum now, and that makes a world of difference. Lemmy isn’t beholden to any “engagement” metrics, so all the dark patterns that infect other social media have no incentive here. The internet wasn’t always toxic (as a general statement). People engage more in conflict than in an interaction with no winners and losers, we’re just hardwired that way. The “Web 2.0” crowd hijacked that to keep us in front of more ads for longer, “Hur-dur, number go up.” Without those institutional incentives I’m very hopeful that the strong foundation of the Lemmy community can “hug it out” with the few rage baiters that are bringing their bad habits here.

Exactly the same here! I lurked on Reddit for yeeears (like, the pre Pao days). I made one post in a very specialized sub, and three general comments elsewhere. The post went well, I got a quick answer but it really could have been an e-mail or forum post. The general comments were absolute DUMPSTER FIRES, and so I never did engage or contribute.

Lemmy has been so different, the community is smaller, but every post interaction I’ve had it feels like the folks I am engaging with read what I wrote and are making a good faith effort.

After the last ten years of social media, it’s a little… weird. But good weird. “Oh, this is what it’s supposed to be like.”

Looks nice! Thanks for bringing it to my attention! Hopefully taking it for a test drive later today!

Absolutely! I am a diehard member of the “Luetin sleep club” but don’t have the time or finances to do more than gaze through that window into the hobby. I’m so glad to have you all here and I hope you all know I find “the hobby” more admirable than weird! Keep up the good fight!

Unfortunately, it motivated people to post content that would be upvoted, which, given the state of popular posts on Reddit over the last year or so on Reddit, has become very different from “good” by which I take you to mean “valuable”.

Give time for the dust to settle, and the shitposts and memes should congregate to a few communities, which can be filtered from our feeds if desired.

It seems (given the beans) that the newly enlarged user base is in the “spaghetti against the wall” phase of posting, just trying to see what sticks.

This to shall pass.

Apologies for the late reply, wefwef ate my reply (but is getting better by the day, I think there were two or three updates just yesterday).

You are exactly spot on. I’ve seen suggestions put forward varying from implementing a karma system, to having admins taking a heavy handed and monolithic approach to community issues, all the way to default non-federation with new instances. All of which, after taking a look around, seem quite “un-Lemmy”. My suggestion is one of perspective and tone. Lemmy has wonderfully rough edges, but I like to think about it like crashing on a friend’s couch vs. staying at a hotel. A more homely experience perhaps, but much more personable.

Let’s get settled in, by all means, but let’s also take a look around and recognize that the system Lemmy and the larger Fediverse have built allowed it to be built not by some multi-billion dollar company or VC funded startup, but by just some regular folks. If that system got us all this far together, there might be something to trust there.

I’ll give it a shot!

If we’re new users, where we are at now (Lemmy) is different than the sites we used to frequent in subtle but important ways.

I believe those differences are an important reason why Lemmy has cultivated such a vibrant and positive community up to this point.

I believe it is important that new users unfamiliar with the space allow Lemmy patience as issues caused by the recent influx are dealt with in a uniquely “Lemmy” way.

I believe it is this uniquely “Lemmy” way of solving problems that sets it apart from the “corporate” alternative.

Oh! Almost forgot, most of the instances are getting hammered and are all volunteer run, so big helpings of kindness and patience are helpful, and if you’re able doing the whole “Toss a coin to your Witcher” thing will help keep the lights on. I’m trying to think of a commercial website or service that has undergone this level of growth without just completely falling over, and I’m coming up blank. I blame FOSS. 😉

Absolutely! The vibe is more chill. There’s not the content churn there was on Reddit, but when I examined my consumption habits on Reddit I realized most of the churn was just reposts anyway. Lemmey is all the meat, and none of the fat.

Yep! This place is great!

Absolutely! This place is fantastic!