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  • oʍʇǝuoǝnu@lemmy.cato> Greentext@lemmy.mlMatchless in the Digital Age
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    11 months ago

    I’m not trying to discount any of your feelings or experiences, I went through this same thing for years until I met my current (and first) gf; for context I was 28 when we started going out.

    I hated hearing it when I was in your situation but it’s always been true for me, work on yourself and keep yourself open and things will eventually happen. I gave up trying to find a girlfriend when I was 27 after years of striking out irl and on dating apps and decided to focus on myself. I was starting a graduate program and got a cool public art opportunity through my city so I just put all my energy into that which helped me focus less on tinder and my lack of sex (kinda) . One day this girl I worked with dumped her loser boyfriend and after several failed attempts to ask her out (I’m bad at putting things down, she’s bad at picking things up) i finally had a date. Four years later and she’s begging me for a ring.

    Life is tough and even harder when you don’t have someone to experience it with. Again, I don’t know your situation and I don’t want to just be another asshole saying things will get better cause I fucking hate those people when I was sad and lonely, but I genuinely do believe good things come to those who wait. Keep yourself open to new experiences and listen to your gut if it’s telling you to take a chance.

    Or tell me to stfu, that’s cool too I get it and won’t be upset.







  • Public servant here, the city I live in isn’t hiring and when they do it’s extremely competitive, think 150+ applications for one position. The city I work for is an hour away and I’ve been doing the drive for two years. I can’t move closer due to lack of rentals and what is available is too expensive (I saw a 2br for 3100 this morning) and they won’t rent to me because of pets (why bother when there is someone without pets who is willing to pay 60% of their salary, less risk for your “investment”). Can’t buy because I can’t afford 600k for a starter home with how crazy interest rates are right now I would be looking at a 3k/month mortgage.

    I could try adjacent work closer to home, but there isn’t much and it would be a pay cut even accounting for gas. Also no viable transit option available unless I want to leave my house at 5 and get home at 7.

    So far I’ve been able to get 1 wfh day, 2 or 3 would be nice but I need to be in office to deal with the public.