What are you trying to achieve?

Not showering? Or having some kind of support?

Instead of focussing on just “I have autism this is hard,” why not look into what might help you, so you can give your mom a clearer idea of how to support you.

For me, showering is so easy not to do at all. I have things built into my schedule which require it, though. Like massage (I feel obligated to be clean for that, and have a routine getting ready for massage). Also I’ve identified things that make me feel gross about being unclean, like when my hair is greasy, and that stays on my mind now once I notice it.

Also if you’re still under 18 (or whatever the age of adulthood is there), a diagnosis is probably a good idea because there may be support available somewhere.

It’s actually much more comfortable for two people in one bed to have separate blankets. :) might be worth trying two twin blankets. Then your partner could have what they prefer and you could have weighted.

Pretty sure those aren’t mutually exclusive.

Came here for this.

I’m partial to flax linen, even though it’s not quite as good sustainability-wise as hemp.

It’s almost as absorbent and has similar anti microbial properties. But the main thing is it’s softer.

Hemp does appear to soften up over time but it can’t match linen’s particular soft smooth suppleness in the short nor the long run.

That said, the last decade or so “linen” is being made with factory processes using fibre ends instead of full strands. So it’s getting harder and harder to find real linen material that doesn’t break down in a couple years.

They’re even weaving jersey (stretch) material from it which is ridiculous, and eschews many of the benefits of the material. -_-

I’m in Canada but that may be true here as well.

Even from that description though it sounds like a grey area? Doing a craft project with someone isn’t like a romantic relationship or anything.

I did get some accidental “revenge” for this one.

Sometime months later, for some reason my phone started pocket dialling this psychologist and nobody else.

I didn’t even realize it was happening. But it drove her so nuts she called me about it a few times, and eventually asked me to remove her number from my phone.

Oh I have another one:

One counsellor I went to see through work insurance was just awful.

Most notably, I was dealing with issues surrounding having open heart surgery, and when I brought it up she started talking about her nephew or something who had some kind of heart problem, and how that obviously means she understands completely.

In my early 20s, I was seeing a psychologist for depression. Because of issues with my mom, she thought it’d be a good idea to have an appointment with her involved.

So my mom came to an appointment.

And right after they met, it turns out they started meeting up personally to do some kind of craft project together.

The psychologist did inform me and check if it was alright but I had no idea what to say. Trust broken and I just stopped making appointments.