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  • No.

    I could leave my house right now, go and meet a girl, develop a long term relationship and I wouldn’t be happy. As it is not for everybody.

    I get engrossed in my hobbies, and it’s not fair to put other people through that if I’m going to ignore them for a week because I decided I wanted to build a drone and obsess over it.

    I don’t understand why you would think like you do. As if everybody on earth wants to be intimate with someone else and anybody that doesn’t is broken in some way.

    Don’t confuse me being passionate about this topic as anger. I’m passionate because you’re fundamentally wrong and I don’t want other people seeing this, those who haven’t matured yet, and thinking they have to conform to what people like you believe as it’s simply not true.

    I’ve said numerous times I don’t live in solitude. I finished work yesterday at 17:00 and was at my friends house with 6 others until 02:00. I woke up today, took a car for a test drive then went to town to join a protest and was chatting with many people. I’ve just been to my parents for dinner and I’m about to go to another friends with another 4 people. Just because I don’t want to live with someone or have an intimate relationship doesn’t mean I’m a recluse.

    Perhaps your situation is different and you’re too socially inept to find someone, but don’t project that on to the rest of us. If you ever come to Manchester I’d love to socialise with you and show you around.


  • A mountain of conjecture here my friend.

    Faking extroversion in work isn’t indicative of my whole life.

    I’ve had decades being social with my large group of friends, and I quite enjoy socialising, it’s just as a natural introvert I might need more alone time as it can be tiring.

    I never said all my relationships have been shit. Sometimes I’ve been the shit partner. And I haven’t given up, I’ve realised that what makes me happy is my current lifestyle and I don’t have to conform to what society believes is normal.

    Perhaps you should take an introspective look at why you would write the previous comment and wonder if there is something in your own life that you’re projecting.

    I would never come at someone for their choice of being in a relationship, an open relationship, or whatever unconventional thing they’re into as I respect people’s choices and I assume people are being honest with others as I was in my first comment.

    Also, I never said I can’t form meaningful connections, I’ve a group of about 20 friends that I’ve had many since 25 years ago. I make new friends and we have a ball. Male and female alike.

    Do you think that everybody single is just waiting for the right person? Do you not believe you can be happy single?










  • Thanks.

    I guess it being about change is great for me, as someone with ADHD I thrive off change as it’s novel.

    I have been playing with the idea of getting some certifications, but more in terms of cyber security as an extra thing I could do for our company in terms of penetration testing our applications so I may dive deeper into this area.

    The same for understanding the architecture as although there are only 5 of us under the bosses, I appear to be the only one interested in the inner workings of the company and products we build. Like the boss has made a seriously cool project that will help us code the boring parts faster using LLMs and he’ll frequently call me over to show me what he’s done. Even if I don’t understand how he has devised the architecture, I’ll still be able to suggest features and give it a go at implementing them, and he is on hand to praise me and get it over the line. Like seriously this things is so cool. A lot of what we do is to our coding standards and a lot of repetition is done away with. For instance if I create a new Model in C# and save, it will watch for changes and add the new table in the code first DB file, it will suggest the validation, add the CRUD schemas, generate the typescript / GraphQL layer and even scaffold the basic views we might want. I helped build the watch command and I’ve never seen a colleague pay any interest at all.

    I can sort of relate to the last paragraph as recently I’ve been on a project with a more tenured coworker who works remote, and he isn’t familiar with react as he handled more legacy projects so I got to explain all the conventions to him and it does make me realise I kinda know what I’m doing.