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  • Ironically, you misunderstood whataboutism. A few definitions for context:

    • “the act or practice of responding to an accusation of wrongdoing by claiming that an offense committed by another is similar or worse” (Merriam-Webster
    • “the strategy of responding to an accusation with a counter-accusation instead of a defense of the original accusation.” Wikipedia
    • “a conversational tactic in which a person responds to an argument or attack by changing the subject to focus on someone else’s misconduct, implying that all criticism is invalid because no one is completely blameless” Dictionary.com

    The specifics of the definition change, but the broad idea is consistent. Your example of “but what about the USA” is a perfect example of whataboutism because not only does it not address or defend Russia’s “bad thing” but it also attempts to redirect the accusation to a different country.

    But simply calling something “whataboutism” doesn’t mean the person bringing up someone or something else doesn’t have a point. It’s frustrating seeing someone say “oh you used a whataboutism, you have no argument” because it’s still good to note if the pot is calling the kettle black.



  • One of the few sane people in this comment section.

    I don’t want to want to judge OP too harshly but this is a common problem with women in STEM spaces where they’re treated as romantic interests rather than professional acquaintances. That alone is problematic, but it becomes a lot worse when the man expresses interest, puts his coworker in awkward position, and then treats her differently because she “rejected” him. Most men are not overtly hostile to coworkers who turn them down but it comes out in subtle ways that can disrupt a workplace. I’ve seen it myself, where a male coworker developed a crush on someone in the office that wasn’t reciprocated and the male coworker will not work with her because he’s offended or embarrassed about her not being interested. He hasn’t outright said that he refuses to work with her, but he suddenly becomes withdrawn and quiet when she’s in the same room as him.

    It’s fine to be attracted to a coworker, but it’s best to keep those feelings to yourself. As a man in STEM, I have multiple female workers that I find attractive, funny, and interesting, but I recognize that they’re at the office to work, not to be hit on.

    Aside from the creepiness factor of pursuing a coworker, it reinforces the idea that STEM is a boy’s club and that women are not welcome. That perception needs to be broken because we need strong engineers regardless of gender. To speak from personal experience again, the company I work at has a culture of making women uncomfortable in subtle ways, which has discouraged innovation and hurt our success.




  • asqapro@lemmy.mltoMemes@lemmy.mlbad habit to kick
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    1 year ago

    I’ve only seen it mentioned a few places, but I saw people complaining about Lemmy in general being too leftist / communist. I don’t know if that’s true, and I don’t think it matters either way, but that’s the “drama” that I’ve seen.