That’s not a bad idea, ty! <3

I’m a huge fan of splitwise-like apps, but somebody (way before this relationship) convinced me that you shouldn’t count pennies in a romantic relationship. I feel like that was terrible advice and I should not have listened, because (ironically) I now spend a lot of time penny-counting (“last time he paid $20 for food, this time I paid $35”).

We had this discussion early on in our relationship and we opted to keep it more “”“natural”“”, but I think I may want to talk to him about splitting everything more evenly. I just feel like that’s an asshole thing to do once we’ve already started the relationship, but I’m probably wrong.

Thank you so much for your reply!

I think the size of the trip is small enough that if we want to reduce costs we might just not end up going and doing something more local (which honestly, I don’t mind either). The trip size/hotel choice was also mostly his idea, not mine. I didn’t mention this in my original post, but I think this adds to my feelings towards this trip (i.e. “why am I paying more if this was your idea?” even though that’s an awful way to put it)

Thank you for your sample message, sometimes I feel like I’m emotionally incompetent and don’t know how to frame the simples of things lol.