Did we time travel? Are we now in Victorian England where an out-of-wedlock grandchild is some kind of scandal?? LOL

A “paradoxymoron” if you will, emphasis on the moron.

I’ve been reading way too many historical novels, because I read “called on” and thought, oh that’s nice of them to visit them after what they went through. 🤦

Much like I ignored reddit usernames in the comment section, I tend to ignore which instance a post is coming from while scrolling. So I subscribe to all the relevant ones, and just scroll from my “subscribed” in my instance.

What if OP wasn’t a Reddit story faker?

LOL I had that thought too. Like…

Well, it’s easier said than done, and processing guilt/regret is also easier said than done lol.

But hearing it a lot of times and telling yourself a lot and pretending someone else you love very much did the same thing and how you wouldn’t think nearly as badly of them for the same thing, helps.

First off, I’m glad to know you’re reconsidering your previous actions. While it’s a good thing to regret and genuinely feel remorse for things you in hindsight maybe should not have done, beating yourself up over it won’t really help you, and all you can ever do is change your present and future, not the past.

Now: as for my opinions on that sort of thing, I have a few. LOL

On a smaller scale/short term, fake stories are mostly an annoyance depending on where they’re being promoted as real; in some cases as in subreddits/places that are attempting to help people with serious problems, it can be more problematic. There was a sub called justnomil about in-laws who were causing problems in people’s marriages. There were some creative writers who seemed to be going through some awful abuse, and were describing ‘found memories’ of previous sexual abuse in somewhat graphic detail. The problem with that is there were people in that sub with actual traumatic SA in their past who read those things and felt deeply for the OP, who were devastated and to a degree re-traumatized by the fact that they had invested their emotions and energy into something that wasn’t true.

On the larger scale, though, fake stories can be of a societal problem in a subtle but real way.

People form their world views from everything around them, including stuff they read online, even if they aren’t trying to let that stuff influence them. So if they’re reading a ton of (fake) stories presented as real where, say, someone’s girlfriend/wife is cheating on them, or cops egregiously abusing their power, or men beating up their SO’s, or trans people littering, they may not on the surface believe all of them are true, and may doubt many of them, but sort of the whole glob (lol IDK what to call it) of those type of stories will subconsciously form part of their opinion about cops, men, women, trans people, or who or whatever.

People like to think that they’re above that but our brains are tricky things and process stuff below the surface that we don’t realize.

So that’s why I get soooo frustrated with fakers online. It seems like just a minor thing, but even known fictional stories can shape society, so fake stories that people actually think may have happened, or could have happened, are IMO at least that powerful.

I suspect it’s that in some way people who write those understand the power/influence they have and it fills a void in them, but the problem is the way they are filling that void or need to feel important (which is a natural need that all of us have) is unhelpful or potentially harmful to others.

Anyway, cheers. Thanks for the question.

A lot of groups coordinate on discord; they’ll have a template & an area they want to target. Some of the larger groups may have thousands of people. It depends on the group, but in one I’ve seen, they organize people by birthdate for some of the designs, and by color for the larger part of the design, and let people go.

There’s a way you can get an overlay of the intended design on the r/place canvas, supposedly, but it didn’t work for me. But like they’ll have templates or whatever.

One of the largest groups is “the void” and normally it just tries to black out the canvas. This year it looks like they’re helping out the fuckspez black and white design mostly.

They aren’t connected except that the same mods run them. We don’t, or haven’t so far, posted duplicate posts. So that shouldn’t be an issue.

And then we’re also paying attention and when it seems appropriate, we will likely close down one and redirect traffic to the one we keep up.

That’s because people got their words all mixed up. Back in the day, “is not it” would absolutely be the normal way to phrase “isn’t it.”

It sounds weird today of course.

Well I’m an idiot lol!

Anyhow, thx for passing my question on haha!

I know you’ve already done a ton of hard work on this, but are there any plans to try to integrate kbin?

Like, I can view my kbin communities anyway, but I can’t moderate one from mlmym/lemmy.blahaj, for example.

If not, no biggie. Really like the interface for now.

To add to that, there was a bit of a time limit in which we had reason to believe we needed to secure the name so that it wouldn’t be taken by certain persons and then just sat upon with no activity.

Yeah that’s a good option that I WISH Reddit had… had. But only for the creator maybe?

By the way I’m commenting this on the mlmym thing you made!

It’s still lacking the collapse a comment ability! I am like when are they going to fix that?

But it’s a much much newer instance. We’ll see, but I think it has potential.

It’s a good idea actually and I could see maybe having some different mods and/or handing over one to someone else at some point.

What’s wrong with subscribing to both? Then you’d have both in your feed; you wouldn’t have to go anywhere.

But yeah we also wanted to make sure to get the name in a couple of places. Didn’t expect our resignation letters & whatnot to go a bit more public and get influxes of users and all.

Yeah people have thrown around the idea of eventually doing something like that. So like you’d subscribe to “AccidentalRenaissance” and get all communities with that name as one feed or whatever.

Hope that happens.

Yeah I think people are trying to force/recreate Reddit in its entirety on a single platform, and that’s not going to happen.

And I didn’t think of it, but yeah having one to check out when the other one’s down is good.

We weren’t sure which to go with; also… there was a whole thing with the creator of the OG sub; we were a bit concerned that they would create those and just sit on them, so we wanted to go ahead and have at least one or two places for AR.

So we did one on lemmy and one on kbin (I think I put one on like… squabbles too?) (I should check that…) and will kinda go with whichever takes off.