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  • I went to a non-uniformed elementary school (which has since adopted a uniform), a uniformed high school, and then university which was obviously non-uniformed. I much preferred the uniformed years because I don’t care one whit about fashion I never had to think about what to wear.

    Granted, my high school uniform had a lot of variety, considering. There were two cuts/styles for the long sleeved shirts, a short sleeve shirt, polo shirt, knit sweater, knit vest, knit cardigan, 1/4 zip sweatshirt, and blazer, which could be mixed and matched as you liked.

    I don’t remember how the conversation came about, but in a previous office job, some discussion (among us low-level employees) came about regarding an office uniform. Most people were horrified by the idea, but I was totally for it.


  • It’s a slow burn introduction to Trek. The show starts off having not much to do with Trek, as the crew itself has nothing to do with the Federation or Starfleet, but they go through a process of learning what Starfleet is, and they try their best to aspire to its ideals so they might be accepted to the academy when they reach the Federation. Ideas (e.g., prime directive, augments, temporal directives) are introduced one at a time with explanations. It’s not meant to “just” be a kids’ show, it’s meant to be a kids’ introduction to Trek. And as a fan of Trek, I think also a good introduction for a non-fan who might feel lost by how vast the Trek universe is. It’s not about politics or diplomacy, but it carries the same spirit of unity, optimism, and the hope for the best of humanity that underlies Trek.






  • I’ve been shipping them since Rutherford told Badgey, “I was just trying to impress Tendi. I mean, look at her, she’s so cute!” Earlier that same ep they’re in the holodeck in the EV suits and they accidentally embrace (due to mag boots) which mirrors the B’Elanna and Tom scene where B’Elanna told Tom she loved him.

    But if you really think about it, they’ve been hinting at the crush since the beginning. He was willing to change his career to make the time to watch a pulsar with her (which was episode 2). When Tendi thought T’ana was transferring her off the ship, they tell each other how much they love the ship and hug. Later that ep he tells Billups he’s been triple backing up memories with her because he doesn’t want to forget her again. (Notably he doesn’t mention backing up memories with Mariner or Boimler.) They’ve always just a little closer than best friends, and damned if it isn’t adorable!



  • Well, I mean, the obsessively and angrily chasing Aang party definitely shouldn’t be emulated, but he’s got a very good character growth arc.

    • He learns his worth as a person (and as a prince) doesn’t come from his abusive father, but intrinsically from his own self.
    • He gains the insight and humility to admit he was wrong and seek forgiveness from the people he wronged
    • He learns to empathize with other people, and that he is his strongest when he releases (and is no longer clouded by) his anger and fights for good.
    • He learns to appreciate the people who love him (Iroh) instead of chasing after someone who doesn’t (his father).

    The world would be a better place of everyone could learn the lessons that Zuko learned.


  • I used to provide some user support at a previous job. (It wasn’t exactly my job, but people would ask for help.) And it’d be easy to get frustrated, thinking people were stupid or incompetent, but I’d remind myself that being good at computers isn’t part of their job, it’s part of my job. These people were hired for other areas of expertise. If I had to do take on parts of their jobs, I’d look stupid and incompetent too.

    That said… sometimes the level of incomprehension people have really is incomprehensible to me. There’s a level where you’re reaching wilful ignorance. When I point at something on the screen and tell the person to click on that… and they can’t or won’t move the mouse there and click on it…





  • It could also be that you (OP) could be wrong (at least sometimes) but continue to insist that you are correct. But consider that needing to be right is just another way of saying needing to prove other people wrong. That is exhausting and infuriating from the other side to have someone constantly tear you down. It’s not being factually correct that’s infuriating, it’s the attitude that goes along with needing to be correctz because (if it’s being pointed out to you in such a manner) it’s not done in a friendly way, but an adversarial way.

    People usually just want to have fun, friendly, conversations. When someone, sometimes not even the person you’re talking to, butts in and keeps insisting your wrong and that you must acknowledge them, it’s extremely rude. It derails the conversation to centre around how smart you (think you) are, instead of the topic, in an adversarial way.

    I know someone who “had to have the last word”. I’m still trying to figure out if he’s maybe neurodivergent and honestly doesn’t understand, or if he’s just an arrogant asshole. But the end result is the same: you come off as a arrogant asshole, and no one will like you for it. Not only does he always “have to be right”, he inserts himself when people aren’t even talking to him, and won’t let other people move on with the conversation until they acknowledge that he’s right. It’s rude, selfish, and self centred behaviour.

    And then he cries himself the victim when people don’t like him, which makes everyone dislike him even more.

    The fact that you’re even asking this question in this way (“how do I be right?” and not “why do people say this?”) shows your need to be correct and make someone else wrong, and your victim complex about it. If I knew you in real life, I wouldn’t be your friend.