Anyone else?

  • flyingjake@lemmy.one
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    1 year ago

    While I’m definitely one to get mildly irritated at the phrasing (and am even more irritated by “fur babies” lol), I’m really bothered by people excusing their own rudeness - right up there with saying “no offense” right before being deliberately offensive. Like if you don’t want to yuck my yum or cause offense then why are you about to do it anyway?

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        1 year ago

        Thanks for your comment, certainly there are people like yourself who mean those words earnestly to convey a delicate point. I also imagine that comes out in your demeanor and character when you are saying that to someone.

        Unfortunately, in my experience, many people say it without any sense of empathy or compassion at all despite the literal meaning. 😕

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      1 year ago

      Yeah I agree! I usually interrupt with “offense taken” before they get through their sentence.

      Either say it or don’t, but lets not pretend the disclaimer does anything other than act as a mild spoiler that they are about to say something edgy.

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      1 year ago

      You mean people with “no filter”, that if you couldn’t handle at their worst you don’t deserve them at their best?

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      1 year ago

      Between the lines of “I don’t want to” reads “I have to”, which is easily disputed if said out loud.