Deciding whether or not to have children (instead of being resigned to it as an inevitability) is finally gaining social acceptability. But how do you decide such a thing? How do you make peace with the myriad lives you’ve chosen not to live, the experiences you’ve chosen to never have?
This piece is one of the most wonderfully written I’ve ever read about how to choose a path, and let go of the ones you’ll never travel. Truly an enjoyable read, even if you’ve already answered the question “do I have children, or no?” for yourself.
This piece is great! As a childless mid-30s woman, I ponder this often. I never had clarity on the subject of having kids. My sister, my mom, and several friends all describe a deep longing for kids and they were very certain about their choice. I love children and celebrate all the babies and moms in my life, but that longing just never happened for me. Maybe I will regret not having kids when I’m 82, but I’ve decided I would rather risk living with that regret than choosing the other path and regretting having kids. I’m a firm believer in only having kids it you passionately want them.