My theory is that they are living in a world of hierarchies and apologizing is admitting a mistake, which takes them down a few levels on the hierarchy of power/popularity.

  • Ergifruit [he/they]
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    1 year ago

    i think it’s the difference between people accidentally hurting you and feeling badly about hurting you, and people that wanted to say something unkind and now they feel like the bad guy because you showed that you were hurt by it instead of taking it on the chin and letting them.