Hi,

jlai.lu is the french instance of Lemmy, some user posted this thread 16 days ago : https://jlai.lu/post/11504685, and a flamewar ensued between hexbear and the french, e.g. between happybadger and their administrator here.

Since they didn’t really have any reason to defederate initially, they’re now adamant that they should defederate because every Hexbear user is agressive, just like some of you were back then(, not them of course).
You don’t believe that they’ll defederate on such weak basis ? I can understand, but that’s what they’re saying, ask them for confirmation if you don’t believe it either.

They also used a list of post found on MeanwhileGrad as if it was representative, but it hardly counts as an argument, this is such a stupid reason to defederate…

They’ve now pinned this post for 11 days, and the defederation seems unavoidable.
If you’re interested in talking with them, @Camus here said he’d like to talk to you, he’s really patient/nice, and you can look at his number of comments/posts to gauge his influence, probably their most active user(, kind of a french ☆ Yσɠƚԋσʂ ☆).
Well, to be more precise, he informally asked for some excuses from Hexbear, but you only have to show him that we’re not aggressive(, if you have some time, it won’t change much), something very easy to prove for >90% of Hexbear users.

They have some communities that aren’t that far apart from what could be found on Lemmygrad or Hexbear b.t.w., so it can’t really be said that they reject us based on terrorism apologia, supporting Stalin, etc.(, even if their “leftist” admin is against socialist countries because our capitalists said that they’re authoritarian).
Staying federated with a french instance would be useless for 99% of Hexbear, so if you intervene it’d mostly be on the behalf of current/future french users(, it can be nice sometimes to speak your native language without using an alt account), and perhaps also for Hexbear’s reputation on jlai.lu.
If you’re french, and/or simply nice, and want a chat with them, feel free to do so directly under the post or with @Camus

Also, keep in mind that the defederation is unavoidable though, if it doesn’t happen now it’ll be next year or the year after, Reddit banned ChapoTrapHouse, GenZedong, etc., so we’re banned from lemmy.world and will be banned from other “centrist” instances such as the french one. So don’t waste too much of your time either.