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  • Angel [any]@hexbear.netOPMEnglish
    10·
    21 days ago

    …unless it’s Ritz.

    Yeah, no, a sheltered white “feminist” recently told me that I have “male privilege” simply because I’m trans. Claiming to be a “feminist” while believing in bioessentialism so hard that you think being born with a certain type of genital automatically ties you to a certain spot in the gender hierarchy is absurd.

    She was horrible in a lot of other ways too, including insulting other cis women such as my girlfriend, saying ableist things about autistic people, and just being an all-around asshole in every way imaginable.

    As stated verbatim by my indigenous friend who is also a cis woman that watched all of this unfold over some social media drama my girlfriend and I got into:

    as a white woman telling a minority of multiple facets they have any “privilege” opposed to her is CRAZYYY.

    • Amerikan PharaohEnglish
      9·
      18 days ago

      Yeah, no, a sheltered white “feminist” recently told me that I have “male privilege” simply because I’m trans.

      Somehow, this doesn’t surprise me. This current wave of feminism has a totally unaddressed issue with bioessentialism so bad that even if I wasn’t AMAB and comfortably in a fluid state, I still wouldn’t want to refer to myself as a feminist anymore for fear of being lumped with white TERF-adjacency. You have my sincerest condolences that bullshit happened to you, though-- and because I didn’t drop in on that thread celebrating your recent partnering, congratulations, too; I think I’ve told you in the past that it was genuinely a matter of time.

      Also, I’m tired of Ritz too; I’ve always considered Townhouses superior.

      • Angel [any]@hexbear.netOPMEnglish
        9·
        21 days ago

        I’m so fucking relieved that I’m not the only one who has noticed that this issue does seem like it’s not being addressed at all. I’ve been feeling delusional for ages for feeling like your average feminist (at least the white ones) has an absurdly transphobic, bioessentialist point of view. They also, oddly enough, tend to be cisheteronormative as fuck. This isn’t even me talking specifically about the more mask-off Rowlingesque TERF types. This is what I’d say about mainstream liberal feminists who have not even the slightest sense of materialism or understanding of feminist theory. I’ve been feeling more comfortable thinking back to womanism more than anything else because of this.

        • Belly_Beanis [he/him]@hexbear.netEnglish
          9·
          21 days ago

          This is what I’d say about mainstream liberal feminists who have not even the slightest sense of materialism or understanding of feminist theory.

          I’m a cisshit hetero guy. Not to toot my own horn, but I find myself being more radical on women’s issues than a lot of women. There’s a large number of “”“feminists”“”" who say things that promote rape culture, ignore obvious signs of sexism, using sexist words, etc. And the slut shaming. Holy shit. It’s so ingrained into lib brains I don’t know if you could even take it out by scooping out gray matter with a spoon.

          I’m preaching to the choir, but “Believe all women, unless it’s a woman who was assaulted by a man we like (such as Biden or Clinton), in which case fuck her she’s a liar.” And putting conditions on when a person can have an abortion (there should be zero prerequisites).

          Sgdyudjdxixcuufudisbrhudsiosjsiaj it’s all so tiresome.

          • Amerikan PharaohEnglish
            8·
            18 days ago

            I’m preaching to the choir, but “Believe all women, unless it’s a woman who was assaulted by a man we like (such as Biden or Clinton), in which case fuck her she’s a liar.”

            That was exactly what radicalized to an unfixable level honestly, was watching a social movement made to address the most monstrous excesses of patriarchy get totally fuckin scuttled the minute it tried to turn its gaze to the political arena. People I’d seen fucking howling about all kinds of Hollywood and Silicon Valley elites suddenly went silent the minute Tara Reade started talking.

            And that’s just the silent ones! That’s not talking about the men and women who went straight piranha, accusing her of all kinds of skullduggery and deception; all the way to the point that she had to flee to Russia the same way Snowden did. That was simultaneously the day any last ‘blue’ drained out of me, and the day that I stopped trusting liberal women; especially the white ones. Started sounding to me like the kind of misleaders we have; the ones that don’t want to change the system, but just want to sit on top of it.

            Led to my mantra, regarding women and how I interact with them. “Unless your feminism looks like that of bell hooks, Ion’t want to hear it.”