I have a group of friends who have gone back to normal for the most part. Restaurants, concerts, clubs, bars, etc… One of them tested positive today and that sparked the standard slew of get well messages from the rest of them. All well and good, I’m not gonna sit here and act like we should point and laugh at the sick. However the conversation that followed didn’t sit well with me.

I asked the group if they normally quarantine from the rest of their household when only one gets sick, or if they just wing it. Someone said they stop kissing and sharing food, but stay unmasked and still sleep in the same bed. They were adamant about not sleeping on their couch. (must be a huge inconvenience to sacrifice a little comfort for their health). Anyway, same person proceeds to say that it wouldn’t matter that much due to incubation time. I responded anecdotally that in the past quarantining from my household while sick has worked for for us and kept the healthy people healthy. No response after that.

The conversation continues with someone else who was saying they did the same thing I did, quarantined in their office and slept on the sleeper sofa to keep their partner healthy, AND IT WORKED!!! This person then proceeds to question how they got it in the first place because they are fully remote for work… They would understand if their partner got it because of their on-site job, but couldn’t reason with how they themselves the remote worker would get it. Mind you, all these people indulge in dining indoors at restaurants and bars, going to concerts without masks, running errands without masks… So, I said just that. “Probably restaurants? Honestly anywhere public.”. The conversation ended right there, no one responded to me after that.

The bright side of the whole convo was that someone did eventually chime in and say that “It’s best to assume COVID when you are feeling sick, because even a cold isn’t worth spreading.” Only to be countered by the sick person saying, “if I would have tested positive sooner I would have been wearing a mask or cancelling appointments” Felt sick and didn’t care until the 2 lines showed up on the test.

So yeah, at the end of the day vibes and treats rule the world. No one wants to be told that their incessant need for good vibes and tasty treats is what may have gotten them sick with a highly communicable disease.

It’s really exhausting…

  • goose [he/him]@hexbear.net
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    I always mask around the house when I have anything that seems like a respiratory illness. Why wouldn’t you? The people you love are right there! Maybe they’ll catch it from you, maybe not, but at least give them a chance, right?

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        Sometimes it had seemed like people were learning, but in retrospect so much of what people were doing was to chase the stigma and the demon away, only mimicking infection control measures they’ve heard about, mixed with semi-superstitions, and sort of accidentally getting it right at best. Without a foundation of scientific thinking people cannot come to grips with the real nature of the problem, and without the confidence that politics can belong to the masses they cannot dare imagine a solution.

        It was inevitable most would be overwhelmed and psychically torn, and would fold under those conditions, and were only awaiting the first announcer to tell them it’s okay. It is a source of continued relief to them that the small number of people maintaining Covid measures on scientific grounds do so without hegemonic backing, and our squawking can be ignored without apparent consequence. All according to Porky’s plan.

        I will never stop squawking, though bird-screm-2

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          Yeah, for a little while it really did feel like we were making progress. The comradery that everyone felt during the “flatten the curve” stage was very beneficial, but also extremely short-lived. As soon as the mainstream decided that vaccines operate in a way that they fucking don’t, all bets were off. Everyone was convinced that the vaccine was the only viable preventative measure anymore and began to use that as an excuse to throw caution to the wind.

          When rumblings began that maybe the vaccine isn’t magic, that’s when we began to see the push towards “we aren’t going to live in fear” and “I did my part for years and it seems like its here to stay.”. Then the general public learned the word endemic, but not the definition of it, so that started to get thrown in our faces. No amount of squawking was gonna sway people anymore at that point, but i too will never stop.