People keep telling me I only deal in absolutes, and that it’s unhealthy and I should sometimes find the middle-ground between two different positions. (I.e. caring for myself vs others, putting all my energy on a task vs not even bothering)
So what’s the procedure to finding a middle-ground so I can apply it to literally everything in my life, as the Autistic Gods demand? \s
I suppose making a habit of checking in with yourself when you’re making a decision. Asking yourself, what are my options. If they seem like diametrical opposites, then maybe it’s a false duality.
There are two ways around false dualities. Either it’s actually a spectrum rather than a binary, so there is one or more middle paths. Or it’s actually an illusion due to some bias, so you have to think outside the system.
An example for the first might be adding sugar to your coffee. It might seem like a choice between unhealthy and unflavorful. But actually you can choose exactly how much sugar you put so there is some flavor, and it’s not too unhealthy.
An example for the second is like a choice between voting Democrat or Republican in the US. Reality is that there are other parties, and the bourgeois democratic system itself is the end-all-be-all for political systems.
I tend to overanalyze or get anxious so having a formula like this helped me, and doing stuff like meditation or writing down thoughts and plans helped with making the habit of thinking before acting