• AgentGrimstone@lemmy.world
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    10 months ago

    I mean, she helped him reach his potential, she put the work in. As long she stayed loyal, I’d say she’s the best kind of gold digger.

  • TalesFromTheKitchen@lemmy.ml
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    10 months ago

    My wife tracked me down eighteen years after we went to school together from second to fourth grade. She always liked me a lot (not really sure why). But yeah, she is the chillest most down to earth person and I’m glad she went through the effort.

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      10 months ago

      Second to fourth grade you must have done something right to draw her back in EIGHTEEN YEARS later. holy cow I’m jealous of a second to fourth grader

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        10 months ago

        Hey, I pulled off something similar. She let me read her diary so I know it wasn’t bullshit.

        In the last couple years after a decade of sharing a life I caught her cheating multiple times and I gave up and rolled out.

        I must not have been near as rad as she thought I was.

        Don’t pity me though. Life is good now. Even if it all falls apart on me again with this one, it’s been a wonderful experience.

        That’s the way it goes. If we all hit the lottery, money wouldn’t be worth shit. I take what I have when I have it with a smile on my face. I have a nervous breakdown when I lose it all and I start again. What else can you do?

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          I must not have been near as rad as she thought I was.

          Nah, it’s she who wasn’t as rad, her cheating says everything about her and nothing about you.

          Good perspective though, all we can do is try to roll with the punches so might as well try to enjoy it.

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    10 months ago

    Some women look at a man and think:

    …I can fix that…

    Though they’re more likely to think:

    Oh please… I’m not a miracle worker

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    10 months ago

    One of my wife’s high school teachers said to marry a nerd. My wife didn’t mention it to me until after we were married, so at first I was kind of offended. But then again, I still feel like my wife is out of my league, so I suppose I should go and thank that teacher.

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    10 months ago

    My story didn’t end with me marrying her but she told me after she broke up with me a decade ago about how she’s always attracted to people smarter than her in the given context of her life, but then she did also kiss me a couple times in between relationships (we were neighbours until recently), so I guess she did like me more than just that but it was damn hard for me because she was my first love and my second “love” didn’t pan out at all.

    Fingers crossed a third love works out, as much as currently my second “love” is still on my mind.

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      I didn’t get married until the fourth person I ever said “I love you” to, the fifth or sixth I ever dated. You just keep going until you have grown and learned enough and you find someone you’re compatible enough with.

      Maybe it’ll be number three, but it’s also totally fine if it isn’t. Setting the expectation though is kind of setting yourself up for failure. When you simply want whoever is your third love to work out, you may compromise your values simply to fulfill the goal of finding someone, not the right one.

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        9 months ago

        It was just a throwaway line tbh, I’m more worried about my age than the chronological position of my marriage partner in the list of my romantic partners 😅

        Though, even with my age, it’s more of a societal expectation bothering me than my own need for a romantic partner, still would be nice to have one