When I can muster it, I treat small talk like a game rather than something to try and get out of. I have to listen for any clues that tell me how I can take the conversation from the tutorial stage to the next level. Once I think I’ve got a clue to go off, I can ask another question about the topic to see if it gets the other person talking about something deeper.
Why can’t I find more people like you to talk to?? Most interesting conversation I’ve had in a while was geeking out about RC planes with a fellow ADHD person but that type of thing is SO rare for some reason.
I’m a fan of this method, lol.
When I can muster it, I treat small talk like a game rather than something to try and get out of. I have to listen for any clues that tell me how I can take the conversation from the tutorial stage to the next level. Once I think I’ve got a clue to go off, I can ask another question about the topic to see if it gets the other person talking about something deeper.
But it’s a tough game to play!
I’ve used this approach and I’ve had 3 hour lectures(not conversations) because of that. Never again will I entertain their topics.
Why can’t I find more people like you to talk to?? Most interesting conversation I’ve had in a while was geeking out about RC planes with a fellow ADHD person but that type of thing is SO rare for some reason.