[Serious]

Fuck racism.

Fuck racism.

Fuck racism.

I have in-person commitments that I need to go to, so I’m letting y’all know for later. I’m making this post as sort of a bookmark because I think it needs to be said, and needs to be said right away. We white people are not doing a good enough job of being allies to our black, indigenous, and people of color comrades. We need to do a better job here, on this site. We need to create a better anti-racist culture here. We need to do way more of the heavy lifting when it comes to educating ourselves, doing emotional work, identifying racism, supporting our black, indigenous, and people of color comrades, educating other white people, and dealing with the fragility of other white people and in ourselves. We need to help build a culture where black, indigenous, and people of color feel welcome and safe, and where white people are educated and emotionally competent about racism, and where white people deal with the clean-up of the messes white people make. We owe this work, this time, this intellectual and emotional labor, this vigilance, this ongoing effort over time, to our black, indigenous, and people of color comrades. We have to do better.

Don’t be racist. Don’t say racist stuff. Don’t make racist jokes. Don’t make racist ironic jokes. This website has a strong shitposting component, but use that for good, not by “pretending” to be racist. It’s not funny and our comrades deserve better. Our black, indigenous, and people of color comrades get too much racism in the rest of their lives, they don’t need another white person who thinks they’re not racist making racist jokes. If you think ironic racism is funny then you need to take a good look at your sense of white privilege. If that makes you upset, you need to do some work on your white fragility. I need to do better. You need to do better. We white people need to do better. I have to go now but I can talk about this more tomorrow. Don’t be racist in the comments, and if people are, call them out, tell them not to, and report them because that shit is not supposed to be here.

  • DickFuckarelli [he/him]@hexbear.net
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    1 year ago

    I’m going to reply only because I’ve had to (and continue to) struggle with whiteness as I did (and continue to) with toxic masculinity and every other pitfall of being a CIS white male.

    Large posts like this come off as sanctimonious. If you’re white and people of color are saying race related things that don’t sit right with you, here’s what you do: shut the fuck up. Your whiteness is probably what’s causing you to feel that way. And once you remove yourself from it, you won’t be mad. It’s freeing. You might learn something. You’ll find it’s funny that shit even bothered you.

    That’s it! Shut the fuck up and listen! Do it with everything.

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      1 year ago

      I can’t say I disagree with this TBH, but I also feel like it’s important to point out to other white people that we’ve reached a situation where it really is our turn to just shut up and listen to what POC have to say. I don’t think OP is doing anything wrong with faer post here.

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        I get it. And I agree the intent is 100% correct (if read correctly and OP is operating in good faith). But ultimately it’s overkill. And their own words can ignite yet another struggle. For example:

        “How do you know I’m not ‘being better’?”

        Start at ground zero: shutting the fuck up. I didn’t get the trans struggle until I shut the fuck up. Didn’t get toxic masculinity until I shut the fuck up. The list goes on. No one is going to analyze themselves from a defensive posture, engaged in a war of words on some shitposting messageboard. And if the OP is inadvertently coming off as sanctimonious and self-aggrandizing then the reader will just go full reddit-mode “I must defend my good name!!!”

        Also, even if the shithead white person doesn’t agree but they shut the fuck up anyways, at least our BIPOC fam still has room to breathe.

        So. Like I said. Shut the fuck up with your whiteness. If you still don’t get it, its not for you to understand anyway.

        (And yes I recognize this post is way too long. Been drinking. What can I say?)

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          “How do you know I’m not ‘being better’?”

          Hey sorry I’m scrolling back and forth kind of getting adhd brain and it’s late, I just want to follow the whole conversation better- is this quote like something that was edited out of another post here, or is this a thing that some white person would theoretically react with, in the context of igniting a struggle sesh? Sorry just hard to follow thank you

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    I know this is about the post I’ve made, and I’ve reached out to some relevant users to discuss.

    I want this place to be safe for all, and I did NOT expect that shit to go the way it did, I just wanted to laugh at someone who reported some shit. I always actively abstain from this sites struggle sessions, and I know I’ve said this already, but I feel fucking horrible that my post devolved into what it did.

    Feels like I’m talking about me me me my feelings at lot here so I’ll end this post.

    Salutes to all of you comrades, I love you

  • Infamousblt [any]@hexbear.net
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    If any white person and I do mean any white person thinks it’s possible for anyone to be racist against you go read literally any book thank you. Fucking mayos making the rest of us look worse than we already are peppino-angry