It could be over a few months, like a new job where one day you feel like actually going to work thinking, hey I actually like these people and don’t mind working here.
Or when your friends have been super busy for months and suddenly you get matched on dating apps, old friends reach out and people want to buy your old junk on Craigslist in a single day.
Yeah a few times. The one that came to mind first was my ex wife. She always made sure to not say anything about divorce but couldn’t even stand to be in the same room as me anymore. I was texting her about a year into the “separation” and it just clicked. She didn’t want to be the reason for the divorce but she had no intention of trying to fix anything.
If she didin’t want to try, then things weren’t going to last anyways.