I have no friends or partner, I’ve been very lonely.

When I go out to try to meet people, no one ever comes up to me and starts talking to me. But if I want to meet someone I have to do exactly that. But like, why should I have to be the one to initiate 100% of the time? Shouldn’t it be 50/50? (And I’m not really talking about societal expectations of the man initiating with the woman, I’d rather have a boyfriend anyway.)

I have such a hard time initiating conversations with people, to the point where I mostly just stress out and sit there alone. If someone initiated with me things might go better. But they just don’t.

The only reasonable explanation I can think of is that literally no one has any interest in me.

  • ilyenkov [she/her, they/them]@hexbear.net
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    1 year ago

    Good advice. I’ve sort of been doing this, but I should just fully accept this as my role. I’ve been using dating apps a lot this year, and been always sending the first message and asking them out. And it’s been going pretty well tbh. (I LOVE dating apps, for all of their real flaws, they’re the only way I’ve ever dated).