You sound like somebody who had an incredibly fortunate childhood and you don’t understand anything about people who actually had to work to get where they are.
You claim that your parents didn’t support you but they paid your college. It sounds like you got supported a lot.
The people who really had to pull themselves up by their bootstraps are people like me. I quit a full ride scholarship to go back home and get a job to support my father and family after he broke his back at work and it took two years before his disability paid out.
From there I was destitute and I’ve had to work my way back up to a point where I can afford to pay college out of pocket by myself while also affording all of my other expenses (like purchasing a house, and supporting my own family as an adult.) I’ve had to make serious sacrifices in my life.
You really should be less judgmental about other people because you sound ignorant when you make those comments.
Just so I’m clear. I wasn’t being judgmental of someone in your situation. I was being judgmental of parents like my dad’s friend who coddle their kids into their 30s, because they’re afraid to say no, not because life threw them a curve ball.
The main point of my post was about setting expectations. The expectations set for me was support would end after college, and I said was thankful for that. For my cousins, the expectations were that support would end after high school. Different circumstances, but both ended up ok, because the expectations were set early so the kids could plan accordingly, and we knew the parents were serious.
Things don’t always go as expected, which sounds like what happened to you. That sucks, and I’m sorry you had to go through that… and may still be going through it. I may be running into something like that soon when we have to make some hard choices about how to continue care for my grandma as the money runs out.
I got my own shit too, my childhood wasn’t all sunshine and farts. I try to play things conservatively so when I get curve balls I’m not totally screwed, but that’s harder when they come at you early in life.
I like to give people more credit than that. No one needs a formal education to make a budget or emergency fund. Having good examples going up helps significantly. But even without that, the internet, or a library, is an amazing resource to learn this kind of thing, where maybe someone can learn so they can teach it to their kids and stop the cycle. If we collectively throw up our hands and say no one can do anything about what they were born into and there is no upward mobility over the generations… then things can only get worse, because we’ve artificially closed off a main path for improvement.
This is basically what my dad did, and what someone along the lines had to do in every family tree with some level of “privilege”. People can be this person on their own family tree. It doesn’t mean they’ll go from broke to billionaire in one step; that’s not the goal. The goal would just be to start creating some stability and solid footing so if/when some shit happens there is a little cushion and people aren’t at the whims of the currently government to try and save them, as that’s never going to happen. And to create some education and habits around this finances in the home, as most schools are teaching this stuff.
You sound like somebody who had an incredibly fortunate childhood and you don’t understand anything about people who actually had to work to get where they are.
You claim that your parents didn’t support you but they paid your college. It sounds like you got supported a lot.
The people who really had to pull themselves up by their bootstraps are people like me. I quit a full ride scholarship to go back home and get a job to support my father and family after he broke his back at work and it took two years before his disability paid out.
From there I was destitute and I’ve had to work my way back up to a point where I can afford to pay college out of pocket by myself while also affording all of my other expenses (like purchasing a house, and supporting my own family as an adult.) I’ve had to make serious sacrifices in my life.
You really should be less judgmental about other people because you sound ignorant when you make those comments.
Just so I’m clear. I wasn’t being judgmental of someone in your situation. I was being judgmental of parents like my dad’s friend who coddle their kids into their 30s, because they’re afraid to say no, not because life threw them a curve ball.
The main point of my post was about setting expectations. The expectations set for me was support would end after college, and I said was thankful for that. For my cousins, the expectations were that support would end after high school. Different circumstances, but both ended up ok, because the expectations were set early so the kids could plan accordingly, and we knew the parents were serious.
Things don’t always go as expected, which sounds like what happened to you. That sucks, and I’m sorry you had to go through that… and may still be going through it. I may be running into something like that soon when we have to make some hard choices about how to continue care for my grandma as the money runs out.
I got my own shit too, my childhood wasn’t all sunshine and farts. I try to play things conservatively so when I get curve balls I’m not totally screwed, but that’s harder when they come at you early in life.
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I like to give people more credit than that. No one needs a formal education to make a budget or emergency fund. Having good examples going up helps significantly. But even without that, the internet, or a library, is an amazing resource to learn this kind of thing, where maybe someone can learn so they can teach it to their kids and stop the cycle. If we collectively throw up our hands and say no one can do anything about what they were born into and there is no upward mobility over the generations… then things can only get worse, because we’ve artificially closed off a main path for improvement.
This is basically what my dad did, and what someone along the lines had to do in every family tree with some level of “privilege”. People can be this person on their own family tree. It doesn’t mean they’ll go from broke to billionaire in one step; that’s not the goal. The goal would just be to start creating some stability and solid footing so if/when some shit happens there is a little cushion and people aren’t at the whims of the currently government to try and save them, as that’s never going to happen. And to create some education and habits around this finances in the home, as most schools are teaching this stuff.
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Ok. Have fun waiting for the government to magically fix everything. You’re children’s children’s children will still be waiting.
Actually, I was thinking about what I said and that was way more harsh than I should speak to anyone.
I apologize for acting like a jerk. I appreciate what you said and hope you have a good day.
I was being far too sensitive, and that’s on me.
It’s all good. I hope things turn around for you. I hope you have a good day as well.