Thanks for sharing. I’ve got a lot of similar stuff. I think the big thing for me is I’m not getting much actionable stuff to do. Sleeping is my big issue. If I’m not getting that right, everything else down stream starts to fall apart, including the workouts. I don’t think the therapist really gets the issue. Once I try to fall asleep I’m reasonably ok, but I will put off even attempting to go to bed for hours, sometimes I will just skip sleeping for a whole night. If could physically withstand it I would never sleep. I can’t imagine this is unique to me as my sister, mom, and some others in my family do the same thing. If I even knew what to look for to do my own research it would be super helpful, but I don’t even know, despite my efforts.
The typical advice is have a bedtime routine and all that, but if I was ready and will to kick off the routine, I’d just get in bed and be done with it. It’s the decision to sleep I put off. But I love sleeping in.
Working out in the mornings did make me feel better, and gave me a reason to go to sleep at a reasonable time. However the gym at a contest that the owner signed me up for, because they needed more people. It was just about showing up and I was already there 4-5 days per week, so it didn’t seem like a big deal. That tiny thing shifted my motivation from intrinsic to extrinsic, and I stopped going all together. Then the drinking started, sleep fell apart, weight came back, depression and anxiety got worse, etc.
I don’t want to take pills if I can avoid it, or would only want to look at that route after I gave the non-pill stuff a real honest shot. Just sleep, working out, and clean eating. I know it had a big impact, but building up the momentum has proven difficult. I watched The Whale when it came out and was like… oh shit, that’s how I’m going to die… I’m not that far gone yet, but a lot of the tendencies are the same.
Oof, relatable. Especially the sleeping thing, we experience basically the same thing. It was my understanding that my issues with sleep come from GAD, if I let my mind run wild I just won’t get a wink of sleep, no matter how long I stay in bed.
Have you tried a different therapist? I’ve had 4 different therapists so far and this last one really clicked and honestly gave me enough motivation to keep going to therapy. It takes a lot of work to get better, unfortunately, it can be a little disheartening to say the least.
Have you gotten a diagnosis for what you have? It might be worth doing tests, I had to get three done to get my diagnosis. Once I had those tests in hand my shrink could just issue meds (which still took a lot of work to find the right mix).
Ik that meds are a little icky. I wasn’t very comfortable at the beginning, but at least for my adhd, I don’t have a choice. It gives me a chance to catch up to everyone else. In regards to my GAD, maybe in a couple of years I can get off it, but it would take an incredible amount of CBT (cognitive behavioural therapy, not cock and ball torture) to reprogram how I respond to stimuli, same as my SzPD. Nowadays, Ik that meds help me, and save for one, a benzodiasepine, I know I can take every day and be fine. Benzos are the nuclear option, so to speak.
Sorry if my response seems a little disjointed, I just woke up.
Thanks for sharing. I’ve got a lot of similar stuff. I think the big thing for me is I’m not getting much actionable stuff to do. Sleeping is my big issue. If I’m not getting that right, everything else down stream starts to fall apart, including the workouts. I don’t think the therapist really gets the issue. Once I try to fall asleep I’m reasonably ok, but I will put off even attempting to go to bed for hours, sometimes I will just skip sleeping for a whole night. If could physically withstand it I would never sleep. I can’t imagine this is unique to me as my sister, mom, and some others in my family do the same thing. If I even knew what to look for to do my own research it would be super helpful, but I don’t even know, despite my efforts.
The typical advice is have a bedtime routine and all that, but if I was ready and will to kick off the routine, I’d just get in bed and be done with it. It’s the decision to sleep I put off. But I love sleeping in.
Working out in the mornings did make me feel better, and gave me a reason to go to sleep at a reasonable time. However the gym at a contest that the owner signed me up for, because they needed more people. It was just about showing up and I was already there 4-5 days per week, so it didn’t seem like a big deal. That tiny thing shifted my motivation from intrinsic to extrinsic, and I stopped going all together. Then the drinking started, sleep fell apart, weight came back, depression and anxiety got worse, etc.
I don’t want to take pills if I can avoid it, or would only want to look at that route after I gave the non-pill stuff a real honest shot. Just sleep, working out, and clean eating. I know it had a big impact, but building up the momentum has proven difficult. I watched The Whale when it came out and was like… oh shit, that’s how I’m going to die… I’m not that far gone yet, but a lot of the tendencies are the same.
Oof, relatable. Especially the sleeping thing, we experience basically the same thing. It was my understanding that my issues with sleep come from GAD, if I let my mind run wild I just won’t get a wink of sleep, no matter how long I stay in bed.
Have you tried a different therapist? I’ve had 4 different therapists so far and this last one really clicked and honestly gave me enough motivation to keep going to therapy. It takes a lot of work to get better, unfortunately, it can be a little disheartening to say the least.
Have you gotten a diagnosis for what you have? It might be worth doing tests, I had to get three done to get my diagnosis. Once I had those tests in hand my shrink could just issue meds (which still took a lot of work to find the right mix).
Ik that meds are a little icky. I wasn’t very comfortable at the beginning, but at least for my adhd, I don’t have a choice. It gives me a chance to catch up to everyone else. In regards to my GAD, maybe in a couple of years I can get off it, but it would take an incredible amount of CBT (cognitive behavioural therapy, not cock and ball torture) to reprogram how I respond to stimuli, same as my SzPD. Nowadays, Ik that meds help me, and save for one, a benzodiasepine, I know I can take every day and be fine. Benzos are the nuclear option, so to speak.
Sorry if my response seems a little disjointed, I just woke up.