I can’t help but think that a lot of resentment from guys who aren’t getting laid comes from society’s notion that if you can’t or don’t get sex, it means you’re a lesser human being and that makes it okay for others to hurt you. In that position, I could easily see a man resenting women as the gatekeepers of his full humanity, and that by not having sex with him, they’re depriving him of it. It’s very similar to some angry thoughts I had when I was younger, and in a worse timeline it’s entirely possible I could’ve fully plunged into that same cesspit.
That isn’t to justify any of the awful shit that incels say and do, of course - many reactionaries lay blame in the wrong place for very real problems they face - but I feel there has to be a connection there.
it’s kinda strange because I’ve never been shamed for it by anyone irl but I used to see it all the time online (although nowadays I feel like I see people use “incel” instead of “virigin” these days)
I was shamed for it a ton in high school and college. It was extra stupid when I was in college because I actually was having sex frequently I just didn’t like bragging about it because doing so felt disrespectful to the women I slept with.
probably just hung out with different people then. I’ve always been introverted and not super social and that’s typically who I’ve hung out around