But even some progressive gay white men say they feel alienated from a movement they see becoming more radical, particularly online, where the tenor of conversation is often uncivil.
Hot take: I’m honestly, vocally sick of settler-gay men who demand that you handle them with kid gloves when their entire existence within the community is an existence blanketed in microaggression at best, when they’re not being outright full-on macroaggressive about someone that ‘doesn’t fit their “preference”’; and I’m genuinely glad people are starting to talk about it.
When this stops being reality, that’s when I stop. When white people stop weaponizing their privilege, in straight or in queer spaces, that’s when I stop. When I can count on a white queer to throw their body “on the gears, on the wheels, and on the levers” like we have to day in and day out, that’s when I stop.
Til then, I genuinely don’t wanna hear it, 'cause this is always the called-out settler response. This kind of response no longer sounds or reads as genuine.