In an adjacent field.

So…in those instances I do what you did. I don’t really let it in…I take notes of it like it’s not happening to me at all in my head. Then I report. I put it in its little box of “work bullshit” and leave it there. It gets easier with years imo.

What you have to exercise caution with is unsupportive admin. In that case I advise not putting your license on the line for their convenience.

Ahhh man I just had to return my work one and I am sad .

Graduate school, without a doubt.

Poor male spiders in the web with big mama 😢

Eating some bread and drinking a ramune.
So right now. :)

Those are beautiful. Not native where I am. It reminds me of the “banana spiders” where I grew up. There used to be these big, majestic nests of them. I ran face first through one as a kid. Definitely a core memory.

I’ve gotten brave in my old age. I only relocate them if they become extremely inconvenient …like my doorway spider (sorry frank). I ignore house spiders entirely as they transit my house. Good luck, leggy friend.

I have a pretty orb weaver on the porch (or I did last summer). Hope I get another.

This is a really good point. Avoiding being a target is hard for some people. Masking can be exhausting for them and it’s unfair. I want their environment to be more hospitable somehow.

Still wear my chucks and vans. They look pretty cool with my work dresses.

Yeah it sucks. Did everything I could to stay off the internet when I was younger and understood this could happen eventually. I kept my kids off the internet entirely—no social media, no group photos with them uploaded, etc. But now some creep can just look in their direction and record them anyway. I know this is possible with phones as well, as I caught someone recording my youngest a few years back at great wolf lodge. It is just exhausting and it feels like there is no winning.

You’re very right here on authoritative voice. Even confident experts can be in error without malice.

I used to worry about being overly skeptical but…well, life experience has taught me otherwise.

I also hope people can become more skeptical as part of a process that’s healthy like scientific rigor.

Pizza from the nice place.

To me, that’s not a partner. You’re describing someone who is incredibly insecure with unhealthy behaviors and YES they are a red flag for abuse. To be avoided.

I’m fortunate to like what I do. It’s the grown-ups making the work difficult.

Doing this kind of. I resigned yesterday. Unfortunately I must take a different job. But the “see you never” part is real.

A lot of good answers here. Being a good model, correcting behavior, treating siblings with equity.

You cannot control everything though. They will have lived experiences outside of the control of their parent, good and bad friends, teachers, etc. They may be born with different medical conditions. All this is impactful in shaping a person, and how flexible they are.

I feel a little scared imagining that lol. I gotta have my bob ross everything is fine scritch scritch happy clouds.

Yeah this is me as well. I just overthink for hours without a distraction. Give me a phone or something to watch and I’m out in 15 minutes honestly. I feel bad because I know I’m probably degrading my sleep but…as least I’m sleeping.

Yes, all of that. Also my laugh is weird.

I enjoy watching it on YouTube. I’m afraid I’d laugh wrong in public so I’ve never been.