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Cake day: June 28th, 2023

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  • Mental health is a squishier standard. Let’s say I had depression and decided to talk to someone about it, get the help I needed to become mentally healthy again. Should that necessarily be penalized if I want to go buy a gun to go out to the range or hunting with my buddies? Should seeking help disqualify someone entirely? Does that prevent people from getting help they think they might need, stigmatizing an already stigmatized practice?

    Meanwhile, if Dave down the hill has a record, he’s already shown he was willing to do an illegal thing, whether or not the record is fair. If he already has reports against him for domestic disturbances, that’s pretty cut and dry violent behavior that ought not be allowed to intensify.

    I’m not saying mental checks aren’t a good idea or aren’t worth it. I’m saying that they’re a harder sell because a) they take more nuance to formulate well and b) the propaganda machine will have an easier time telling people how those checks are overreach.




  • If you’re privileged enough not to be threatened in that situation (ie you’re not a younger woman, an immigrant, LGBTQ+) and it’s not emotionally damaging to maintain the relationship, do. Be there, but be open about different and willing to answer questions. Either they’ll be an ass eventually, or maybe, just maybe, you can show them the rabbit hole is just their head in the sand. Cult deprogrammers say over and over that the best way to get people to see reason is through personal conversation. But don’t have expectations that it’ll work all at once, or if they go back and forth in their beliefs. Unlearning worldviews is hard work.


  • Something I didn’t learn until this week, but James Dobson, founder of Focus on the Family (wrote “Dare to Discipline”, a book about how we really needed to start hitting kid again in the 70s), was an assistant to a counselor who was a eugenics-loving, racist marriage counselor. Dobson wrote/published materials for Popenoe (the eugenicist counselor) as his assistant. Very few years later, Dobson started writing many of those same ideas as himself, but wrapped up with religion.

    So these young whippersnappers might be trying to bring back eugenics, but that’s largely because for the last 50 years, eugenics have been evangelized to many, many (especially Christians) in all but name.









  • I’ve been fascinated with how the religious right has stood behind someone so obviously out of line with their ‘principles’. There actually have been people doing interesting work on that front, if you know who/where to look. I’d definitely recommend the book “Jesus and John Wayne” by Kristin Kobes du Mez, which chronicles the growing power of conservative Christianity in government starting back in the 40s through the election of Trump, and how electing Trump really was an expression of their values, not a departure from it. Podcasts like “Conspirituality” and “Straight White American Jesus” also try to take an honest look at the cultishness and where it’s coming from. What’s hard is that deradicalization is hard and often has to be done one person at a time. When we have one percent of the country needing to be deradicalized, maybe we can find people to go talk and make connections with each person. When it’s 30% of the country, that’s a much different proposition. Maybe society can figure out how to do that better–Conspirituality sometimes talks about how cults differ as leaderless, online only groups. Maybe social media can also reach people… But it won’t if kids can’t find information online that challenges the worldviews their parents want to program into them.

    And recently, that Amazon Duggar documentary “Shiny Happy People” came out, and it’s not a bad entry point to understand the issues I’m talking about either. I think it does a good job to show how these ‘throwback’ values play on nostalgia too act as an on ramp for people to raise their children in–children who are then encouraged to be literal warriors for Christ–or their GOP allies.