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  • It makes me wonder—would the dynamic change if there was only an upvote? So you could choose not to upvote, but the default action would be a neutral one, and if you liked/wanted to support/etc you could signal that.

    I see tons of posts on here now that are downvoted to oblivion, because they are a legitimate article that says something a group doesn’t like. There won’t even be comments on the post. So like a Reuter article that discusses Palestinian casualties and no comments and like -20. This doesn’t seem like a super useful mechanism. Or at least, it’s just functioning today as a content preference “I don’t want to see this typed content” as opposed to “this is bad info, out of line with the community, etc.”

    And despite ranking my list by either hot, or top day/six hours, I still see the downvoted posts regularly so the mechanic doesn’t even really do anything in terms of visibility. Or possibly there’s just too little content on a given community for it to get filtered out.


  • It’s been a moment since I lived there, but I’d say the KY side would be less desirable based on your stated needs.

    I lived in the Clifton/ northside area near the university, that’s a pretty good progressive area. Oakley would probably be pretty good too, a bit more residential / young families etc. I was in grad school and the cooler younger profs I had tended to live on Oakley for example.

    OTR might be interesting as well, not sure how things have gone since I was last there.

    Mass transit and diversity are… touch and go in Cincinnati, but it’s generally a decent place, I enjoyed my time there. I’m from Baltimore and I’d say cincy is about as historically racially segregated Baltimore is, which is to say: a lot.

    I’d say it’s definitely possible to do mass transit and bikes for sure, but there are thing a where a car makes things much easier.

    Also I’m not trying to shit on Covington/newport, but it’s just probably a slightly less good fit based on all the standard reasons you’d imagine. Newport in particular was a kind of party night destination when I was there. Maybe it’s massively changed though.

    Take what I say with a grain of salt—it’s been a decade since I lived there. Easily my favorite “big” city in Ohio though. Great bars and food, good topo, some great parks. A personal fav of mine was walking around spring grove, 19th cent huge cemetery. That sounds morbid, but it’s also an arboretum and very beautiful.


  • When I used to have panic attacks, the only thing that used to work for me was controlled breathing. There’s a bunch of different protocols one can follow, but the one I used at the time was circular breathing or something similar: in for 4, hold for 4, out for 4, hold for 4. Think of a sorta squared circle. You can adjust those numbers for comfort, but rapid breathing quickly ramps up the response, so it’s important to short circuit that and establish equilibrium. Vagal breathing is similar and can also work well, I think that one is usually something like breath in for 3-4, breath out for 6-8. Again you can tinker with the numbers, you just want the ratio.

    I practice these sometimes when I drive long distances, although that makes sense for me since my acute panic attacks developed randomly involving specific parameters on highways…

    And of course: meditation. It will definitely help with this sort of thing if you can do it consistently. Unfortunately I’ve never figured that consistency part out, myself.


  • Hotspur@lemmy.mltoScience Memes@mander.xyzOn Bears
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    2 months ago

    Gotcha so the idea is they’re just gonna give it a shot and try to eat you, regardless, because the stakes, they are high?

    To be fair, in a moral sense, they should absolutely try and eat every human they can get their claws on; we have done a bang up job on making their habitat and food sources disappear.




  • Hotspur@lemmy.mltochapotraphouse@hexbear.netLosers
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    Haha that makes so much sense, in the fried-brain thinking that people like the tweet OP exist within.

    What happens if a lesbian married a trans femme is it like uno reverse? (Because in the twisted minds of these people, this would be a straight marriage, since the trans femme is obviously a self hating man, regardless of what she wants to be, and the lesbian, despite being a horrible deviant, has married a man while pursuing her preference)


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    Ah ok gotcha. Seems like a shitty one—gay marriage is about orientation, transgenderism is about bio gender/identity, but I suppose the implication is that it’s all deviance and gay marriage is the gateway drug. Such an exhausting spectacle, but I guess it’s easier to hate others than deal with your own shit…