Whatever, I don’t exist.

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Cake day: June 9th, 2023

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  • The hypocrisy of caring and Hallmark holidays.

    Some calendar days were created by companies out to make money, others by organizations trying desperately to raise awareness for their worthwhile cause.

    The end result is often the same, jump on the bandwagon for one day to be seen as doing good or being good, then hop off and return to business as usual.

    There’s a calendar day coming up that every year makes my life worse. For one day a year, acquaintances ask me a question, don’t care about or listen to my answer, and then go back to ignoring me for another year. Oh but hurrah for them, they did the thing they normally wouldn’t because social media gives them warm fuzzies for announcing they did the thing. They don’t even remember the questions or answers, for them, it was a thing to do, instead of being a better caring person for the other 364 days.









  • Yes, but since they have already begun on the furniture, you will need to train them out of it.

    Find your best cat treat, (for our cat it is dried strips of beef) We began by placing the treat on the scratching post - or hiding them if possible. When the cat uses the scratching post (we have three different ones in the house, and they all see use). When cat uses the scratching post - praise and a treat. Uses furniture? Water gun NEAR the cat. (intentional miss)

    The goal is a positive connection to the desired behaviour, and a neutral to negative for undesired. We had to go neutral because our cat is a rescue and pretty anxious. We didn’t want to add to it. Now she doesn’t use the couches at all, and runs to the scratching post when we enter the room and shows us she is using the post so she’ll get a treat.