The Southern States of America have some of the most beautiful landscapes and climates this country has to offer. It also harbors some of the worst people and culture this country has to offer.

Having traveled all over the US, being to every state other than Hawaii and having lived in a total of seven, four of them being Southern States, I’ve had the chance to see what the country is like, it’s various cultures and the people that make up those cultures, and have a developed a strong opinion from my experiences.

That opinion: Fuck the South.

I vividly remember moving from a North Western state to a southern state as a child and experiencing the utter culture shock from the move.

In the NW, I was welcomed for who I was. In the South, I was not.

In the NW, I was able to be who I wanted to be. In the South, I had to be like them.

In the NW, you were judged by your character. In the south, you were judged by the cost and size of your material items.

This is not Red vs Blue States. This is the South vs the rest of the United States.

The utter amount of corruption in Southern governments from the Governors offices’ down to the local police departments is both appalling, but extremely apparent if you just stopped to actually take a look.

There’s a massive amount of suffering from those in poverty in Southern States because of the rugged individualism in the culture and the utter lack of empathy towards those they do not know. As long as they get theirs, that’s all they care about. In the Southern Culture, the mentality is not “we’re in this together”, it’s “not my problem if it doesn’t affect me”.

The South = “Me, Myself, and I” and always has been. Disagree? Then how else can you explain their history if not for their own selfish reasons?

Everyone’s main focus is themselves and their immediate family/friends. Everyone else just exists (barely) and if their existence is worse than the Southerners, then that’s their problem and the southerner will not lose any sleep over it.

The South’s education is abysmal.

During my time of puberty I was living in southern states.

I had no idea what sexual intercourse was or how it was performed until I was 14 because my health classes sex education was “abstinence only”.

I learned by watching pornography.

I didn’t know about the female reproductive system or how it worked until I was 16 when my girlfriend told me about it. When we talked about sexual intercourse and the reproductive systems of both men and women, we talked about solely about STDs and how losing your virginity causes you to lose a part of yourself (this was an actual lesson in the sixth grade, I shit you not. My teacher also talked about how pornography created Ted Bundy. Again, I shit you not).

It’s not at all surprising that teen pregnancies ravage southern states. How could it not? They purposely keep teenagers in the dark as a form of control. And if a teenager breaks out of that control and gets pregnant, then their punishment is to have the child and be a teenaged parent. But this isn’t surprising. The culture of the south has always been about controlling others. They literally betrayed and fought against the United States because of it. And even after they lost, they still could not accept losing control. The KKK was formed, Jim Crow laws established, and they repealed the rights of their fellow Americans. And this mentality still affects Southern Culture to this day with their weaponization of religion and identity politics. (Did you know the Department of Justice was created just to fight the KKK because they were such a big fucking problem?)

Southern culture is also a very cruel and hateful one. (I know! That seems ridiculous to think! But is it when compared to the rest of American Values?)

“What about Southern hospitality?” You may ask.

This is true. The South is known for being polite.

But being polite is not the same as being kind.

Politeness is the social norm of the south, but kindness is not.

Southerners only take kindness at face value. It’s not done out of the kindness of the heart, it is done out of egotism and the need to feel morally superior than those around them. Hence, they’re polite. Not kind.

In my experience, the southerner is the first to judge, but the last to take any criticism.

I could go on and on with little intricate criticisms like the priority of athletics over education (SEC is absolute proof of this), or how you wouldn’t be able to tell the difference between a picture of a village in a developing nation and small town in rural Mississippi, but I don’t want to be here writing all night.

Obviously the world is not black and white. I know not every southerner is a bad person. I know you can’t put everyone in a singular box as every person is different. But when it comes to defining the culture of the American South, it is an utter embarrassment of the United States and against what our forefathers wanted the country to represent. Freedom and Tolerance of others (Benjamin Franklin actively pushed for the tolerance of other religions in the US. Would the average Southerner do that?)

Our biggest mistake as a country was not completing the Reconstruction of the American South. It is because of this failure you still see confederate flags on the back of their trucks and monuments of traitors in the center of their towns. And now the democracy of the United States is at risk because of it.

Fuck. The. South.

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    I want out so badly. I suffered through a college degree, I’m working two jobs but I can’t do it anymore. I hate living here. I’m poor, I’m trans, I’m teetering on homelessness. If I can’t get out I’m just going to end up becoming an hero.

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      Hey look, I know things seem pretty bleak, but suicide is never the answer. You are talking about a permanent solution to a temporary problem.

      Things can always go up, if you need someone to talk to, I’m here for you.

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        The problem isn’t really temporary at this point. I’m on year 30. I have two bachelors degrees, half of a masters and I work 80 hours a week to sleep on a floor mattress at my friends house.

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          That’s a temporary problem! I know exactly how you feel, I’ve been there myself. Change and opportunity is always around the corner. Life sucks sometimes, but look at the bigger picture. Your wealth is not tied to your happiness, only comfort!

          Do you know about the philosopher Diogenes? He lived in a box in the middle of a market, and it’s all he needed to be happy.

          Because life is not about what material possessions you have, but the moments that you experience, the memories that you make, the emotions that you feel. You take a look at the bigger picture, but look at the smaller areas as well.

          You have already been hurt enough, please don’t hurt yourself any more, please be kind to yourself, I may not know you or what you’ve been through, but I know what you are feeling, and I want to let you know that I care. This planet is a shitty place, but you are doing the best you can, and that’s great, try to find solace in that.

          Look at the upsides to your life, even if there is just one, hold onto it and do not let go, revel in it and become a master of it!

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          I’m usually the last person to suggest ANY kind of religious organization for support, but if you are living in a liberal city, you might want to get connected with a United Church of Christ congregation (after doing your due diligence to make sure you see rainbows everywhere). I am not religious, but for reasons I went to one in Durham, and there was definitely a culture of helping out LGBTQ+ folks, everything from providing housing and social support for homeless queer youth rejected by their families and folks in situations quite similar to your own. The one I went to had a lesbian pastor and a transman pastor in training. Again, I am atheist as fuck but these were good people that were doing excellent work with no Jesus strings attached, a lot of whom weren’t even religious but just liked the community. It sounds like you don’t just need money, you also need some compassion and care. They could help with all three. Just know that there are people like me who hear you and want to help get you back on your feet, okay?

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      That college degree can help you get jobs in other states. I’m also trans but it was hard to hold down jobs because of sexual harassment and people constantly trying to size me up. I’ve been looking at offers online for room sharing in blue states and there seems to be some good options. I just wish people would explicitly put “trans friendly” so I don’t have to out myself.

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        Well, the thing about being on the verge is that there’s hope.

        Hop on off with limited resources and no real support system aaaaaaand….homeless.

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          So when OP gets homeless, then move. New leaf I suppose. Float down the street river and come out the other side.

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          There may be better alternatives that you may not have been aware of. I’d recommend reaching out to your local Human Services department or equivalent. They can help you with cash assistance, medical, or other.

          If you end up homeless, utilize welfare to save up to move to your destination? Just know you only get limited time on welfare for life.