This is a bad habit I picked up from my dad (and directly or indirectly reinforced by the terrible people I had around me growing up) that I’m still working on kicking, actually. It was very much a gaslighting environment, waaaay before that became a watered down buzzword. Even when repercussions slapped you right across the face, just blame the entity holding you responsible. Admit nothing. I’m still working on migrating to a different defense mechanism for my fragile ego, but occasionally slip back into that if the situation is really bad.
Good on you for being aware of it and attempting to be better.
Digging the proverbial hole with the shovel. (now, double down, OP.)
This describes me in literally every online argument I’ve ever had.
What helps me is remembering that some people aren’t worth being understood by.
My son is 11, and this is a daily… or even hourly occurrence.
That would be a perfect description of Trump
What do you mean by that?
Say or do something. Experience negative consequences. Rather than owning it or admitting you did wrong, double down and deny or continue doing the thing that got you into trouble.
